How Well Do You Know Yourself?

If you want to know your past, look into your present conditions. If you want to know your future, look into your present actions.
— -Buddhist Saying

I grew up with a mom that loved deep thinking.  Sunday nights usually consisted of personality tests, laughter, a game of Scrabble and a good dose of self reflection.  Sounds profound and boring, I know, but it was more associated with teasing and sibling rants of pointing out our worst and best qualities, in the most happy and loving way possible.  I was fascinated by it.  And I guess the apple doesn't fall far from my mama because I love to study the mind.  I love studying people.  I am not a good surface-level conversationalist.  I love a good connection with someone that is a good deap-sea diver of examining personal fears, goals, doubts, productivity, etc.  And it usually leads to a much more meaningful connection. 

But here's the main truth; I use personality/ego tests as one of my many self check points. I want to examine my own traits for the sole purpose of mastering my weaknesses.  I realize it will take a lifetime to understand ourselves and master our ego, but I love hearing what educated philosophers of old have studied and what they have mastered with similar egos like mine.  


It's called the Enneagram test.  It's different than many that I've taken and so far it's hit me to the core.  This particular test is a way of examining the ways the human soul becomes distorted or contracted into states of ego. And he classifies it into 9 different forms that contains components from mystical Judaism, Christianity, Islam, Taoism, Buddhism and ancient Greek philosophy. 

And sooooo.......I took the free test. 


 According to the graph, my most dominant ego states are Type 7 and Type 3.  


“A person must know who he is. A person must understand himself, improve himself, learn his weaknesses in order to overcome them. It is hard for a person to understand his own weaknesses.”
— Chaim Potok

Yes, I like to party.  Yes, I like success.  But with a social strength mixed with an ambitious, competitive, image conscious nature, this ego combination, if not kept positive and productive, can cause those around this type of go crazy.  Trust me, I know.  And so does my husband. :)

These types have some positives:

  • extroverted 
  • optimistic
  • self-assured 
  • versatile
  • spontaneous 
  • competent
  • diplomatic and poised
  • charming
  • Ambitious

And the negative:

  • can misapply their many talents
  • become over- extended
  • highly driven for advancement
  • scattered
  • undisciplined
  • typically have problems with workaholism and competitiveness
  • constantly seek new and exciting experiences
  • concerned with their image and what others think of them
  • can become distracted and exhausted by staying on the go
  • typically have problems with impatience and impulsiveness


the takeaway

Yep, that just about nails it.  And it's hard to see my weaknesses there in plain view...staring at me. When I read into the philosophy and analysis of my personality traits in the test, it gives an overwhelming amount of information about each type.  It told me what to be careful of.  It told me what strengths and addictions this type of ego is drawn to. 

Is it 100% correct? Probably not.  

But for me, it identifies what I need to steer away from in my home, in my relationships and where my ego can possibly go.  

But most importantly, it makes me self reflect.  It forces me to look inward at the strengths that I know I have, and the weaknesses could possibly keep me from progressing. 

Whether it's a personality test, a friend, a spiritual guidance counselor, etc, I think it's so important to keep yourself in check.  If you know ahead of time that you are more prone to addictions, you can possibly be more mentally prepared to stay clear from them.  If you know that you are drawn to a competitive environment, you can spiritually prepare.  If you know your inner weaknesses, the first step is identifying and striving for strength in that particular area daily.   So when you see me next, I hope you you'll keep me in check.  Cool?

So I aired out my dirty laundry.  What about you?  Take the test here and share the results with me!  I'd love to find out more about you.

And I'll be happy to keep you in check :)